Be Boujee Be True Be You
This podcast is a space I have created to chat about a little bit of anything and everything..I am not a life coach, nor do I have any official qualifications, but I will be discussing experiences and topics, that I have had some experience with over the years.I am excited to chat with you and with special guests along the way.
Episodes
66 episodes
#17: Relationship Timelines - What Is The Perfect Relationship Timeline? How Do We Know When It Is Right To Take The Next Step & Creating A Relationship Timeline The Works For You
How many of us have felt pressured at one time or another, to make sure our relationship was moving along at the so called "right time".Many of us have had the thoughts, is this moving too quickly, are we falling behind, shouldn't we al...
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Season 3
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Episode 17
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20:43
#16: Divorce, Closure & Being True To Yourself: When To Stop Trying To Fix The Unfixable, How To Find Closure When Communication Breaks Down & Embracing Vulnerability
Up until the summer of 2022, Sarah Valentine was living in New Zealand with her husband and trying to work on her marriage.When Sarah's marriage ended and her world was turned upside down, she made the decision to share her story on soc...
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Season 3
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Episode 16
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28:47
#15: The "Instant" Spark In Dating - How It Can Make You Settle For Less, Help You Understand Past Trauma & The Difference Between Feelings Numb & Genuinely Feelings No Connection
"The spark", "instant chemistry", "butterflies", these are the markers that so many of us still mistakenly use in dating, when deciding how much we invest in someone.In this episode, I discuss what those feelings can actually mean (spoi...
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Season 3
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Episode 15
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23:58
#14: Divorce & Finances - A Woman's Guide To Gaining Confidence When Navigating The Financial Aspect Of Divorce Financial Abuse & How to Be Treated As An Equal Partner
One of the most overwhelming and life changing parts of a divorce is splitting the assets and finances.In a lot of marriages, there tends to be one person who is responsible for managing what money comes in and what goes out and if you ...
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Season 3
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Episode 14
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40:03
#13: "High Maintenance" - What Does It Mean, Is There More To The Label Than Meets The Eye & Trusting Your Gut
The label "high maintenance" can take many different meanings, depending on who you ask, and usually it is not meant in the most positive light.In this episode, I discuss what springs to mind when I hear the words "high maintenance", an...
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Season 3
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Episode 13
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16:06
#12: Exercise & Grief - Feeling Connected To A Loved One Who Is No Longer With Us, Accepting The Praise You'll Never Hear & Overcoming The Pain
Grief comes in many forms, from the end of a relationship to the passing of a loved one. In this episode I speak with my brother Jon, to ask him how he used sports and exercise to cope with the death of our dad when we were 6 and 7...
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Season 3
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Episode 12
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1:08:44
#11: Romantic Attraction - How Important Is It When Finding A Long Term Relationship, Are Our Standards A Form Of Self Protection & What Does "Settling" Really Mean?
There are so many factors when it comes to deciding who we find attractive in a romantic sense, and frustratingly, quite a few of these factors can distort how we view this topic.In this episode, I discuss how important it is to find so...
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Season 3
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Episode 11
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24:59
#10: Dating Apps From A Man's Perspective - An Honest Insight Into The Complex World Of Online Dating, Being Catfished & Knowing When To Get Off The Carousel
Anyone who has ever used a dating app before will know, the process can feel anything but straightforward...Through social media, it is become more and more common for people to share their experiences of dating, but often, it will be w...
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Season 3
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Episode 10
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1:28:05
#9: Relationship Perfectionism - Why Do We Need Our Relationship To Appear Perfect? How To Lose The Need Of Everything To Go Perfectly & Feel Great In Your Relationship (No Matter What Anyone Else Thinks)
We've all seen those couples on social media over the years, the couples who post constant mushy, loved up posts about each other, only to notice they have changed their relationship status to "single" a short while later.Throughout my ...
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Season 3
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Episode 9
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23:23
#8: Divorce Burnout & Keeping Things Amicable - Why Communication Breaks Down So Easily, Looking At Both Sides & How To Navigate The Stress Of Divorce
Divorce burnout is not a term I had heard until recently, but after looking into it, it was definitely something I had experienced and is not something to ignore.In this episode I speak with Claire Black, who shares in depth the reasons...
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Season 3
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Episode 8
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36:17
#7: When Life Turns Upside Down... Embracing Uncertainty, Creating A New Path & Rewriting The Future
There are people who love and embrace change and then, there are people (like me) who finds change reeeeally uncomfortable (even when it is a positive and exciting change). Sometimes that change is a new job, moving to a new locati...
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Season 3
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Episode 7
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26:13
#6: Can Women Have It All? How To Run A Successful Business, Maintain A Happy Family & Discover How Your Hormone Health Has A Vital Role To Play
Can women have it all? This is a question that has been asked, well, for as long as I can remember! It is also a question that has so many levels and can take on a variety of different meanings.In this episode with the fantastic Lynda S...
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Season 3
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Episode 6
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1:02:43
#5: Controlling & Creating The Narrative - Why We Do It (Even With The Best Of Intentions), Reactive Abuse & How To Deal With Someone Creating A False Narrative About You
Controlling or creating the narrative is something that happens almost every day, even if its when you don't want to admit you ate the last row of the chocolate bar in the fridge when you know it was for someone else!Controlling the nar...
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Season 3
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Episode 5
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22:33
#4: How To Survive & Thrive The First Decade Of Long-Term Love - The Dangers Of People Pleasing, Becoming The Light House & Changing The Mundane To Magic
Keeping a long-term relationship/marriage happily together throughout your twenties and into your thirties is not an easy thing to do (as so many of us know).The majority of us spend a large part of our twenties just trying to figure ou...
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Season 3
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Episode 4
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55:02
#3: Solicitors & Divorce - How To Find the Right Solicitor For You, Dealing With The Other Side & What Not To Pay Attention To
One of the scariest parts of going through a divorce is the legal process.If you are someone (like me) who has never had to deal with solicitors before, it can be hard to understand what their role is throughout your divorce and how to ...
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Season 3
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Episode 3
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19:08
#2: Navigating An Affair - The Initial Signs, Using Your Intuition & How To Rise Again After Your World Is Turned Upside Down
Finding out that your husband/wife/partner has had or, is currently having an affair can feel like one of the most devastating things that can happen to us.Every relationship and every situation are unique and nothing is ever black and ...
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Season 3
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Episode 2
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57:06
#1: The Light At The End Of The Tunnel - Life After Divorce, Trusting The Process & How To Reach That Light
When we hear the saying "there is light at the end of the tunnel", it can often be followed by a mixed response in fact, if we are going through a difficult period, it can be the last thing we want to hear.In the first episode of season...
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Season 3
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Episode 1
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30:42
#25: Being Treated Fairly After A Break Up, What Does This Mean And Where Do You Draw The Line?
Being treated fairly in an emotional situation is, I feel, such a complex statement to make. It can be so hard to find the line between wanting to be treated fairly and equally to realising we are just projecting our frustration an...
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Season 2
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Episode 25
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17:47
#24: "The Taylor Swift Effect" And Using Music To Process A Breakup
Until I spoke with Amie Jay, I had never heard of the "Taylor Swift Effect".In this episode, singer/songwriter Amie Jay discusses how she bravely uses personal experiences in her life such as her breakups and romantic relationships to c...
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Season 2
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Episode 24
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37:10
#23: How Our Pets Can Support Us Through A Breakup And Those Big Life Changes
This last week I have felt a lot of heartbreak. My cat passed away and quite honestly has left a huge hole in my life.What I very quickly realised is just how much I had been relying on him in this last 18 months while I navigate the br...
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Season 2
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Episode 23
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11:13
#22: How To Cope When Grief Affects Your Mental Health
Grief can effect us in so many different ways and sometimes, the wide range of different emotions can have a big impact on our mental health.David has struggled with depression anxiety and suicidal ideation for most of his life and his ...
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Season 2
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Episode 22
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33:36
#21: "Know When To Pick Your Battles" - A Way Of Avoiding Our Problems Or, A Positive Way To Behave?
"Knowing when to pick your battles" is such a common phrase that we can hear in most areas of our lives.I always used to see this as a way of avoiding dealing with difficult situations or not having the awkward conversation. However, over t...
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Season 2
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Episode 21
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11:37
#20: Dating After Divorce
Going through a divorce is such a huge life change and it can often feel turbulent and traumatic.After going through such a heartbreaking time, the idea of dating can seem extremely daunting.I had such a lovely and interesting c...
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Season 2
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Episode 20
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29:53
#19: Comparing Your Relationship? - The Pros and Cons
In the age of social media, comparing our lives to pretty much everything can almost feel impossible to avoid at times, especially when it comes to our romantic relationships.Although we know comparison is usually never helpful, i...
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Season 2
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Episode 19
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15:22
#18: Abuse, Manipulation And Gaslighting - The After Effects On Your Next Relationship And Your New Partner - From The Perspective Of A Partner
This is not the first time I have covered gaslighting and manipulation in this series of 'Be Boujee Be True Be You' however, I feel that the perspective this episode gives is such an important one, and a perspective you don't often hear about.<...
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Season 2
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Episode 18
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1:04:08
